Life today makes it really easy to catch a glimpse into one another’s lives. With the quick tap of a finger, we can look into each other’s living rooms, closets, kitchens, fridges, vacations, birthdays, and even quiet moments. When we have the ability to see all of these things, it can become easy to entertain the idea that the life they live is the life we want. We can fall into the lie of believing that what they do with their time is more important, the stuff that they buy is better, the stage of life they are in is better, their ideas are better, their creativity is better, what they do with their time is better, their choice of profession is better, their parenting style is better, their giftings are better. We can begin to envy the snapshots of the lives we see via edited lenses without fully valuing what the life we have been given looks like.
1 Corinthians 7:17, 23
“Only let each person lead the life that the Lord has assigned to him, and to which God has called him. This is my rule in all the churches… You were bought with a price; do not become bondservants of men.”
Measuring our lives against others’ not only stifles our ability to be thankful and content with what we have been given but also our ability to empathize. Whatever our lives look like – whether we perceive them as good/bad or not enough/too much, God has given them to us. He has allowed different circumstances and situations into each of our lives, not because we can handle them, but because through them He will be the most glorified. When He is glorified, He is known and when He is known people are saved by the salvation He offers. Can He be glorified in the prettiest house with the healthiest homemade meal? Absolutely. Can He be glorified in the house with toys strewn about and lunch from a box? Or in a job that isn’t glamorous? Praise the Lord the answer is yes.
“Only let your manner of life be worthy of the gospel of Christ, so that whether I come and see you or am absent, I may hear of you that you are standing firm in the spirit, with one mind striving side-by-side for the faith of the gospel, and not frightened in anything by your opponents.”
The life He has given you is the life that will ultimately most glorify Him. None of us have reason to boast in the life we have – we didn’t create it, He did (1 Corinthians 4:6-7). Be concerned about the life He has given to you and live it well. Does it feel small or ordinary? Live it well. Does it feel overwhelming or fast? Live it well – don’t seek to live another’s life. When we focus on what is at hand in our own lives we can flourish with the talents He has gifted us, with the children He has given us, with the job He wants to use us in, and in the relationships we have with friends.
God has deemed my life at this time, as a single, twenty-something living in Houston, Texas, as the life that is best for me to live. It could look different tomorrow, but today this is the life that He knows will ultimately most glorify Him. And, since He knows where “today” fits in relation to all eternity, I can’t sensibly argue against His wisdom.